Sometime back a neighbor friend and I went to have coffee at one of those fancy coffee houses where a regular cup of joe is 7.00. We waited patiently in a long line for the coveted cup. When we finally sat down with our little cups of joy to chat, we both looked at each other, looked around at our surroundings, looked back at each other and laughed. Our minds thinking the same thing. We were the only ones in the entire coffee shop actually engaged in a face to face “real” conversation. Everyone else either had their heads down looking at their phones or their noses in their MacBooks. Even those who were sitting with others were totally disengaged from any conversation. Sad but true story.
Since that coffee date, at least once a week, I’ve made it a point to reach out to someone I know – not by sending a “thinking of you” text but either by picking up the phone and calling someone or meeting up in person. Ok maybe I send a text or PM to see if they’re free but I’m a little old school. I have a rule about texting (unless it’s an emergency and you’re not able to call them) if it takes more than 3 text exchanges, pick up the phone and call. So much gets lost in translation texting.
I’m pretty sure that I’ve mentioned before that we don’t have phones at the dinner table until after dinner or if someone (Chris) is expecting a family member to call. We treasure our roundtable dinners as an opportunity to connect and share what’s going on. I also like to “round up” everyone for meal planning. We have supper and a show with Julian as our entertainer, so who needs a phone.
My days are definitely filled living in a full house with 4 generations but working from home and sitting behind a computer for a good portion of the day can get a little lonely with the exception of when Chris and I have lunch and coffee breaks. But never the less, my heart longs for something than a quick run to the Post Office or grocery store. Connection. Plus getting out of the house is a great way to clean the palate and jump start my creativity.
My coffee friend inspires me, she has such an amazing creative mind and after a couple of hours spent with her I feel the immediate need to create. Our coffee dates are always a great way to regenerate ourselves and each other. Unfortunately the past few months both of our schedules have collided and we haven’t seen each other. But certainly not for lack of trying on both our parts. Soon.
Tomorrow, I’m very excited to drive down to Oceanside to meet up with a dear friend for lunch and a walk along the ocean. My friend is a sea glass whisperer and I hope that some of her knack and talent for finding such beautiful treasures will rub off on me just a bit. If I don’t score a treasure or two, I will still have spent the afternoon with an amazing and very inspiring lady as well as have driven down the coast in Penelope.
So if you send me an email, text or call and I don’t pick up right away, chances are I’ve got my toes in the sand reconnecting with a friend and most importantly reconnecting with myself.
I challenge you to do the same for 7 days. Pick up the phone and call someone or meet up with an old friend or co-worker for coffee. It’s good for the heart and soul.