Wiki defines the Sandwich Generation as a generation of people, typically in their thirties or forties, responsible for bringing up their own children and for the care of their aging parents.
So what about those of us in our fifties and sixties (oh my) who’s children are now grown and have children of their own. Many of us are blessed to have our elderly parents still with us and we’re also raising our grandchildren not to mention still playing a supporting role for our grown children too.
I think we should be called the Tiramisu Generation! Why you ask, well simply because I for one, am much more fond of dessert than I am sandwiches and Tiramisu is made of layers. Deliciously and yet complex layers filled with cocoa and coffee! Two of my favorite things.
In January of this year (2015), I was blessed to become “Mormor” (grandmother ) to Julian Joe and in May I was doubly blessed when Alannah, JD, and Julian moved back to CA to start their new lives right next door to mom and I and I became a member of the Tiramisu Generation. I know – yes, next door, separated by a driveway! Crazy how life works out.
Within just a couple day of their moving in, life as I had known it changed in a New York minute and my adorable 89 year old mom threw her back out lifting Julian. We spent the next week in/out of ER and Urgent Care. We had a few very scary moments and as anyone in my position has been it’s so heartwrenching to see anyone you love in excruciating pain. Family is everything and I couldn’t be more grateful that everyone was here and helped with mom.
It’s been a long summer and we’re relearning how to do things and what she can and cannot do. Mom’s always been an huge integral part of Beauty Cafe and so finding a way for her to still play a part and help and yet take care of herself has been a challenge. Lord have mercy on the stubborn woman of this world!
Every day has become a new lesson involving grace, dignity, and patience. I haven’t read too much about others in caretaker roles like myself but I know I can’t be alone. So I’m going to blog a bit about our journey. I hope to hear from others and share our thoughts and stories.
Everyday is a blessing!
Love, laughter and friendship,