How do we determine how much we want to pay for something? We go to the store, we see something we want and we take a look at the price. Sometimes we don’t give it a second thought. We toss the item into the basket and on we go about our lives. Other times, though we often have to take time to really evaluate the value of the item and if it’s perceived value is greater or equal to it’s price. Sometimes in life we have to do the same thing with the relationships in our lives. Unfortunately, it’s not as simple as assessing value on an item in a store, however in the same way we have to take a look at the value the relationship is bringing our lives. How do we feel when we leave the presence of this person. In healthy relationships, there is give and take. Sometimes you have to be there to bring your friends up and encourage them; let them know that everything is going to be okay. Other times it’s you that needs the encouragement. If you are constantly feeling emotionally drained and are left in a state of exhaustion every time you are in your friends presence, it’s time to think about how much value this relationship is bringing to your life and what cost it is taking on your health and well-being.
Walking away from a relationship doesn’t mean that you have failed at a friend. Instead, it means you are practicing self care and standing up for your best friend; you. By walking away from a toxic relationship you are taking the keys of power back on your emotional state. When we are in a fog of toxicity it is oftentimes hard to think about what life is like without the chaos and drama. You may not even realize how toxic the relationship is. That is why it is so important to surround yourself with healthy people who can be your sounding board. People who you trust will tell you the hard truths. These are your true friends. Lean into them and listen to them. They have your back.